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The idea of Radical Forgiveness is an important aspect to be able to progress through life without all of the hurts and emotional bonds holding you down. We talk about this, ways to go about it, and discuss the three rules for simple living on this (special Birthday episode for Ira…) episode of Open Eyes!
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An eighth grade student studying Latin asked Vermont Senate Leader Joe Benning to introduce a bill to give the state a Latin motto.
The motto “Stella quarta decima fulgeat” which translates to “May the fourteenth star shine bright,” was suggested.
Naturally, Conservative lost their # because those danged ferriners in Latino countries are not going to take their country, dammit.
some of the comments from facebook:
This really is just madness – ignorant bigoted, unthinking and stupid madness!!
I think the ” I don’t speak ATHEIST” got me the most.
These guys really need to take a look around if they have problems with latin.
Sen. Thom Tillis (R-NC) argued this week that restaurants should be able to “opt out” of health department regulations that require employees to wash their hands after using the bathroom.
“We’re one of the most regulated nations in the history of the planet, and I think if we go about it in a common sense way that that solves a lot of problems. It makes these other big problems that we’re talking about imminently more easy to solve.”
if they choose to opt out of this policy as long as the post a sign that says ‘We don’t require our employees to wash their hands after leaving the restrooms.
Kids sent home without coats
A North Carolina middle school is under fire for sending students home from school on a cold day without their winter coats.
The students apparently ran afoul of a strict uniform dress code policy at the Ranson IB Middle School in Charlotte that includes outerwear.
Chanda Spates told WBTV in Charlotte that three of her children came home Tuesday without their coats and said the teacher took them because they did not match the school uniform. Spates said at least 20 other students were sent home coatless that day for violating the dress code.
She said the students were told if they wanted their coats back to have their parents come up to the school.
Spates said her children were told that their coats were taken away because they were not the right color, hunter green. She said last year Ranson sold coats that matched the uniform. This year the coats were not available in the right color.
Charlotte’s temps Tuesday afternoon were in the high 30s.
The school issued a statement the following day, admitting that it goofed.
The principal at a North Carolina elementary school is in hot water after parents say she forced a bunch of students outside to trudge around a dirt track for over two hours without hydration because they failed to wear their uniforms on the last day of school.
Complaining parents say the trouble began when their kids showed up at school in regular garb instead of khakis and white polo shirts.
The principal’s response, peeved parents allege, was to order the offending kids outside to schlep around a dirt trail on the Manchester Elementary campus.
The temperature was in the high 70s when the slog started and in the high 80s when it finally ended over two hours later. The high humidity made the air seem hotter.
Parents say the kids had to continue walking until they showed up with their uniforms or just took them home.
Throughout the punishment, parents said, Holland didn’t allow the kids inside. She forbade teachers from giving them water.
Almost ALL of the cases so far have been in areas where they PLACED the ILLEGAL IMMIGRANT kids.
HOW MANY of these sick with measles are UNVACCINATED kids? No one says THAT.
Nope. It’s all the antivaxxers fault.
The New York Attorney General has ordered WalMart, GNC, Target and Walgreens to stop selling certain herbal supplements that it says don’t contain the herbal ingredient on the label, even in small amounts….
The letters included statements like: “No St. John’s Wort DNA was identified.” “No plant genetic material of any sort was identified in the product labeled Echinacea.” And some contained allergens like wheat that were not properly labeled.
Why do we need rules?
We need to learn a set when young as a basis for ethics
We are still learning about ourselves and the world around us
Do all rules apply to everyone?
Not always. There are those that think there should be separate rules for those in power and control, and those that are poor.
Religions have their own sets of rules, as well
The Ten Commandments are a good example
The problems with rules are…
There’s a difference between ethics and morals
Morality vs. ethics story
Some people think that they are above the rules
There are TOO MANY rules
There are approx 300 laws enacted every year in the US
That’s not counting regulations
We are responsible to know them ALL
“Authority” is not law
The 3 Simple Rules
1. We have free will to do anything we want
2. Do not do anything to interfere with someone elses free will
3. Always take responsibility for your actions
These simple rules cover everything possible.
That’s how the mind thinks. It’s what it was designed to do. It will do everything, literally, everything that it can to make sure that whatever your present circumstances are, whatever emotions you feel, stresses you’re under, etc, are not going to change, because, after all, you are alive and it has doing its job. To do ANYTHING different would be to bring about the end of your life. Or so it thinks.
What does this have to do with forgiveness?
The essence of forgiveness is change.
It is what brings about new things, whether for yourself or the other person or party involved. Something will change in the dynamic between you.
So forgiveness is, at its heart, as anti-mind as you can get.
Let me get into some real esoteric truth here.
Forgiveness is not about the other person. It is never about them.
Forgiveness is about YOU. It is for YOU, not for them.
You see, what someone else thinks or does to you is their business. It is not yours. How you react to it IS.
In other words, if I thought that you were a jerk, that’s my business, not yours. If i tell you you are a jerk, that’s on me, not you. That’s my cosmic law price to pay.
BUT, how you react to my calling you and thinking of you as a jerk IS your business. That’s on you, not me.
Forgiveness is like our spiritual steam release valve. It is about releasing the anger, the hate, the hurt, that what the other person did to us made us feel. It is so that we can get away from it, cleanse it from our auras, so to speak, and not have that corrupting force on us any more.
But the mind, being insane and wanting us to not change anything at all OR WE WILL DIE RIGHT NOW, has a hard time dealing with true forgiveness.
Most people, when they think “forgiveness” are doing nothing more than giving it lip-service. They will say, “Yes, I forgive you,” but they really mean, “I will say this so that the situation will ease up, but I am never going to forget this.”
Do you see the difference?
True forgiveness is absolute. You let it all go. Every bit of it.
That doesn’t mean forgetting it, and letting them stomp on you again, but it does mean letting go of the emotional attachment that you have to that action or act.
And the best way to start doing it is to say Thank You.
Seriously. Thank the person for what they did, because it taught you something. Even if that thing is that you will never let someone else ever do it to you again, it was still a learning experience, and you can be grateful for it.
That’s how you get out of the negative emotions and into something more positive, or at least balanced out.
You don’t even have to thank them out loud. Just do it in the quiet part of yourself and really mean it. If you say it aloud to them, it’s very cathartic, though.
What it all comes down to
As I said, forgiveness is about youm not them. It’s never about them.
You have to do what you can to move past the emotioinal traumas and scars that you carry, so that you an actually NOT be impacted by them at every turn.
If you have been hurt in the past, you KNOW how much it can afect every single relationship you have in the future. But, the reason it has such a foothold on you is because you have never stepped out of the insane mind and given true forgiveness for what happened to you.
You do not have to live subjected to that insane mind! You CAN break free of it and start living your life the way you would really like to live it.
You can be free of those emotional traumas and bonds that you carry to that other person.
I mean, thin about that. Someone that has hurt you now has full control over everything that you do. Do you really WANT that person having that control: They would laugh at the whole situation.
I know this from being someone that was abused. I would not want them knowing that what they did to me impacts my relationships today! They would laugh maniacally at the whole thing. They’d take a sick pride in it.
That’s what the dark masters of the universe don’t want you to know. They take sick pride in teh fact that people do not practice gratitude and forgiveness. They cackle at the whole idea that they have helped to shape us into the emotionally addicted, non-thinking and completely under their control animals that we have become.
You don’t have to live that way. There IS another way.